Thanks so much for this deep delve into what we trans widows experience. In my data on 60+ trans widows, the rate of sexual assault by husband before she leaves is 1/3. The rate of physical assault is a bit higher but less than half. Our ex-husbands defame and vilify us to others and our children over half of the time. This is particularly overt when children are involved. I am part of the lucky 2/3 who were not assaulted. Women who answer my survey are amazingly honest; we could all claim he physically hurt us but I find that women are very honest, and sometimes even still delude themselves regarding the fact of his jealous aggression towards us. I'm proud of you, Ritchie, for taking on this conversation with trans widows!
Ute, Are you going to try to get this data published? This is a much-needed part of the wider conversation on the harms caused by this insidious sickness.
Thanks, Realitycheck! I publish the data on the channel, but I am outside of the traditional academic stream. At the moment, I have about 60 trans widows' info for my survey, 20 Questions to Ask a Trans Widow. I have several out there, awaiting replies. Often the recollection of the experiences is traumatic and as well, many younger women are worried they'll experience retribution if ex-husband finds out. I'm waiting patiently. But, just by the way, I was contacted by the Megyn Kelly show today. We'll see if that turns into something. Be well, and thanks always to Ritchie for his adroit and on point writing.
Megan Kelly would be an excellent way to get the voices of trans widows out there, finally listened to and not automatically ignored or dismissed - the BBC being a prime example.
Thanks so much for this deep delve into what we trans widows experience. In my data on 60+ trans widows, the rate of sexual assault by husband before she leaves is 1/3. The rate of physical assault is a bit higher but less than half. Our ex-husbands defame and vilify us to others and our children over half of the time. This is particularly overt when children are involved. I am part of the lucky 2/3 who were not assaulted. Women who answer my survey are amazingly honest; we could all claim he physically hurt us but I find that women are very honest, and sometimes even still delude themselves regarding the fact of his jealous aggression towards us. I'm proud of you, Ritchie, for taking on this conversation with trans widows!
Ute, Are you going to try to get this data published? This is a much-needed part of the wider conversation on the harms caused by this insidious sickness.
Thanks, Realitycheck! I publish the data on the channel, but I am outside of the traditional academic stream. At the moment, I have about 60 trans widows' info for my survey, 20 Questions to Ask a Trans Widow. I have several out there, awaiting replies. Often the recollection of the experiences is traumatic and as well, many younger women are worried they'll experience retribution if ex-husband finds out. I'm waiting patiently. But, just by the way, I was contacted by the Megyn Kelly show today. We'll see if that turns into something. Be well, and thanks always to Ritchie for his adroit and on point writing.
Megan Kelly would be an excellent way to get the voices of trans widows out there, finally listened to and not automatically ignored or dismissed - the BBC being a prime example.
I have to wait to schedule a call next week, and hope they will agree to use my pseudonym. I will let you know. Thanks