We live in a world that doesn’t tolerate “agree to disagree.” In the name of love and kindness , we throw truth out the window. Im proud of you Ritchie for speaking truth.
What a quagmire the world of trans and detrans has become. This insightful article has the quality of bad dreams where nothing seems right but you can’t wake up.
You will never know I exist unless you read this comment. I watched you on Andrew Gold's Heretics, and having now watched all his interviews, yours has to be in my top 3. The main feeling for me was 'what a completely likeable person' although I felt personally wounded by your story, as I do every single time I see some poor person has had a body part removed in an attempt to cut off their pain.
I have since read your name, in a positive light, dozens of times. You are more loved than you think, because I reckon there are hundred of people like me, who just haven't commented to tell you so ❤️
I appreciate your mentions of Buck Angel and Brianna Wu as presentations of "the good ones" who have the attention of the press and those who oppose sex trait modifications, but lash out just like the others when it suits them. I've seen both of them as mealy-mouthed hypocrites. We trans widows, who saw our husbands start down this unhealthy, mindbending path, are well aware of the arrogance and superiority cultivated by "the good ones." I now have data on the experiences of 67 trans widows, and too many of the former husbands presented as "good" to the public while using ritual manipulation and coercive control on his wife and children in private. I remain astounded, but somehow not surprised, that therapists and surgeons will not admit they do physical harm to their patients. The 2 dozen malpractice cases in the States should have some impact. A recent interview with desistor Shane Cole (he took E for 3 weeks, obtained through the illegal online marketplace) on Stephanie Winn channel presents a convincing account of the pressures on young men in this crazy era. I always thought of it as a stage in the detransition process when the individual says, "I found out I wasn't true trans, but I believe in it anyway." I don't believe in true trans, didn't when I discovered Neddy's crossdressing diaries in 1992, didn't when he got the surgeries in 1996. His surgeon sure did though--he signed the name and sex marker letter, inserting his medical expertise into the law. Your honesty, Ritchie, is magnificent, one of my North stars. Here's the link to Shane's interview:
Very interesting Ritchie. It’s an absolute minefield for you, and that is surely exhausting. I’ve always been appreciative of your input because you are so straightforward and honest. That’s all I have to say really. I agree..there are no good Wolves in sheep’s clothing. No good liars. Thank you. I like the Scorpion Story. It could be used to describe the illegal immigrant situation as well. 👏
"Maybe it’s about being okay with standing alone, because at least then, you’re standing on something real." Standing alone is incredibly hard. Most young people can't do that. I think many of the detransitioners, and especially desisters are just terrified of not being able to find another friend group. So they go from identifying as "trans" to identifying as "queer" - a word with pretty much no meaning. You get to be a part of a "fun" group without paying the price. The "queer" young women play Wendys to Tran Peter Pan young men. It's all fun and games until some (all) of them get hurt.
“Just a thought.” Profound and insightful thoughts as always. It sounds like you are finding solid ground and are not shaken by the constant wars around you, but now can analyze and reflect on what causes so much conflict. Always insightful and helpful.
I'm exhausted and not the sharpest today, but here's something I learned in my almost 50 years: You will never be able to belong fully to a group that gives you unconditional love and support. It's simply impossible, such groups do not exist. Not even family works fully unconditional.
The one thing that increases your chance of receiving love and support at a normal level, is treating YOURSELF with as much love and support as you can, and then extend that outward without expectations.
It sounds like an old cliche, I'm fully aware of that, but it's the only one I've found to be true, because once you are able to treat yourself like that, you won't need outward validation. You will look into the mirror and see someone who is true and in sync with their values.
I could spend a week trying to put what I mean into better words, but I'm too tired, so see if you can use it as is, and feel free to discard it if not. Good luck, and... look beyond sex and gender. I may be a woman, but not part of any group. I'm just me. You can be just you.
Wow. That was a long read. Interesting. I have mixed feelings on the pro-trans stuff though. When I transitioned, I cut off anybody that offered the slightest resistance and currently have male and female friends living as trans. While I no longer believe medical transition is ever warranted, and sorely miss the parts I lost, I also don't want to get cut off by these people just in case they one day regret it and need someone to talk to. You'll never see me be an activist for trans rights, but at present, I feel the need to be supportive of those that may one day end up like me.
Very well written. I hope to met you someday and wish you all the best. You have a lot to offer and I hope you continue to write and educate. I learned today because of you
Very happy to see you Ritchie! We hail from the same place (probably share some of the same friends!) You're a very astute young man, and I appreciate you more than you could imagine. Late at night and deep into a bottle, the truth about SRS starts to emerge from my mates who have been through it. On top of the predictable nightmarish side effects, they are now lumped in with these utter lunatics, they're people in their 40s and 50s who just want to quietly get on with their lives to the best of their abilities. They're embarrassed by this absolute debacle, and want no part of it. The rabid TRA have undone decades of progress by messing with the young and vulnerable and forcing themselves into places where they don't fit. And it breaks my heart for the tiny minority who just want to walk the world unnoticed.
I just saw your YouTube video on Sasha White's channel, you are an articulate and intelligent man who tells a riveting story. Maybe one day you'll write a book about your experience and life.
Hi Ritchie, my nephew has been diagnosed with autism which means his mother won’t cut him. I’m giving glory to God through the Rosary and glory to you through the glorious God. He loves and teaches
We live in a world that doesn’t tolerate “agree to disagree.” In the name of love and kindness , we throw truth out the window. Im proud of you Ritchie for speaking truth.
What a quagmire the world of trans and detrans has become. This insightful article has the quality of bad dreams where nothing seems right but you can’t wake up.
You will never know I exist unless you read this comment. I watched you on Andrew Gold's Heretics, and having now watched all his interviews, yours has to be in my top 3. The main feeling for me was 'what a completely likeable person' although I felt personally wounded by your story, as I do every single time I see some poor person has had a body part removed in an attempt to cut off their pain.
I have since read your name, in a positive light, dozens of times. You are more loved than you think, because I reckon there are hundred of people like me, who just haven't commented to tell you so ❤️
I stand alone, with you
That was beautifully put, thank you xo
I appreciate your mentions of Buck Angel and Brianna Wu as presentations of "the good ones" who have the attention of the press and those who oppose sex trait modifications, but lash out just like the others when it suits them. I've seen both of them as mealy-mouthed hypocrites. We trans widows, who saw our husbands start down this unhealthy, mindbending path, are well aware of the arrogance and superiority cultivated by "the good ones." I now have data on the experiences of 67 trans widows, and too many of the former husbands presented as "good" to the public while using ritual manipulation and coercive control on his wife and children in private. I remain astounded, but somehow not surprised, that therapists and surgeons will not admit they do physical harm to their patients. The 2 dozen malpractice cases in the States should have some impact. A recent interview with desistor Shane Cole (he took E for 3 weeks, obtained through the illegal online marketplace) on Stephanie Winn channel presents a convincing account of the pressures on young men in this crazy era. I always thought of it as a stage in the detransition process when the individual says, "I found out I wasn't true trans, but I believe in it anyway." I don't believe in true trans, didn't when I discovered Neddy's crossdressing diaries in 1992, didn't when he got the surgeries in 1996. His surgeon sure did though--he signed the name and sex marker letter, inserting his medical expertise into the law. Your honesty, Ritchie, is magnificent, one of my North stars. Here's the link to Shane's interview:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ry0VCy_3Q-0&t=175s
Very interesting Ritchie. It’s an absolute minefield for you, and that is surely exhausting. I’ve always been appreciative of your input because you are so straightforward and honest. That’s all I have to say really. I agree..there are no good Wolves in sheep’s clothing. No good liars. Thank you. I like the Scorpion Story. It could be used to describe the illegal immigrant situation as well. 👏
"Maybe it’s about being okay with standing alone, because at least then, you’re standing on something real." Standing alone is incredibly hard. Most young people can't do that. I think many of the detransitioners, and especially desisters are just terrified of not being able to find another friend group. So they go from identifying as "trans" to identifying as "queer" - a word with pretty much no meaning. You get to be a part of a "fun" group without paying the price. The "queer" young women play Wendys to Tran Peter Pan young men. It's all fun and games until some (all) of them get hurt.
“Just a thought.” Profound and insightful thoughts as always. It sounds like you are finding solid ground and are not shaken by the constant wars around you, but now can analyze and reflect on what causes so much conflict. Always insightful and helpful.
Thank you for continuing to write. 🙏🏼
I'm exhausted and not the sharpest today, but here's something I learned in my almost 50 years: You will never be able to belong fully to a group that gives you unconditional love and support. It's simply impossible, such groups do not exist. Not even family works fully unconditional.
The one thing that increases your chance of receiving love and support at a normal level, is treating YOURSELF with as much love and support as you can, and then extend that outward without expectations.
It sounds like an old cliche, I'm fully aware of that, but it's the only one I've found to be true, because once you are able to treat yourself like that, you won't need outward validation. You will look into the mirror and see someone who is true and in sync with their values.
I could spend a week trying to put what I mean into better words, but I'm too tired, so see if you can use it as is, and feel free to discard it if not. Good luck, and... look beyond sex and gender. I may be a woman, but not part of any group. I'm just me. You can be just you.
Wow. That was a long read. Interesting. I have mixed feelings on the pro-trans stuff though. When I transitioned, I cut off anybody that offered the slightest resistance and currently have male and female friends living as trans. While I no longer believe medical transition is ever warranted, and sorely miss the parts I lost, I also don't want to get cut off by these people just in case they one day regret it and need someone to talk to. You'll never see me be an activist for trans rights, but at present, I feel the need to be supportive of those that may one day end up like me.
Your position reflects true kindness, not the fake one that TRAs demand of everyone.
Be a leader, Ritchie. We love you.
Very well written. I hope to met you someday and wish you all the best. You have a lot to offer and I hope you continue to write and educate. I learned today because of you
Great article!
Very happy to see you Ritchie! We hail from the same place (probably share some of the same friends!) You're a very astute young man, and I appreciate you more than you could imagine. Late at night and deep into a bottle, the truth about SRS starts to emerge from my mates who have been through it. On top of the predictable nightmarish side effects, they are now lumped in with these utter lunatics, they're people in their 40s and 50s who just want to quietly get on with their lives to the best of their abilities. They're embarrassed by this absolute debacle, and want no part of it. The rabid TRA have undone decades of progress by messing with the young and vulnerable and forcing themselves into places where they don't fit. And it breaks my heart for the tiny minority who just want to walk the world unnoticed.
Top notch Ritchie, as always. Carry on growing, learning and being an honest voice. As you are.
I just saw your YouTube video on Sasha White's channel, you are an articulate and intelligent man who tells a riveting story. Maybe one day you'll write a book about your experience and life.
Hi Ritchie, my nephew has been diagnosed with autism which means his mother won’t cut him. I’m giving glory to God through the Rosary and glory to you through the glorious God. He loves and teaches