Navigating through the rubble of recovery
Thanks for telling it like it is, Ritchie. Everyone advocating or considering transition should read this. It should be plastered on every newspaper and featured on every nightly news show in all countries where these medical atrocities are being perpetrated. I admire your honesty, your justified anger and your refusal to be crushed by what has been done to you.
I value your willingness to expose the reality of your life so much. This is important work - and do look after yourself as I know this isn’t easy.
You are a masterful communicator, Ritchie, your message is vitally important. May you find peace and happiness despite the challenges.
I feel like every reader should print this out and send it as an anonymous letter to the "clinic" in your area. These greedy charlatans need to read it. Your writing improves. I told myself that I'll stop if it is too hard on me, but you've become compelling and evocative. For some reason, my thoughts drifted to the book, One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich, by that Russian whose name I can remember how to spell.
Powerful work. My sister in law is raising my nephew as a female; I suspect she aborted a daughter prior. He's ten now.
Sorry Tulip but I erased my comment feeling concerned that I was causing you further pain. This whole ideology is evil and I appreciate everything you are doing to expose it.
Much love to you Ritchie. ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️
I read this last night, Ritchie, but didn't know how to formulate an adequate response. I doubt this one will be even close to adequate - after all, what can a random stranger say that has much utility? - but your article deserves some sort of response. Firstly, I'd like to give recognition to how your writing is improving. You've had a way of communicating honestly since you began, but this is being polished to a very high standard. I get insight into something I cannot possibly understand - because I have not been through it - through your words. Secondly, whilst I am in no position to give you advice, I hope you and other victims of the terrible, unethical medical practise perpetrated on you find, or create, a body of expertise that will help you. I know, through my own disabilities, that there will always be some regret at what has been lost. I don't (as far as I know), have anyone to blame for my degraded body and mind, so the burning anger you must feel isn't part of my experience, though. I still hope that there are people who have the relevant experience - I have in mind people who help victims of shootings or bombs - who will see the group of people iatrogenically harmed and do something practical about it. I know this is a long response, and I can't get paragraph breaks to work!, but tl:dr - you're becoming an excellent writer, and you deserve better than you are getting. Love to you ❤️❤️
I hate this ideology, hate reading stories like yours, hate the cult like mind virus which seems to have infected not only the young and vulnerable but huge swathes of people who cheer it all on.
My daughter is gay with autistic markers, luckily for me (kind of) she's an ally rather than trans. We're barely even talking though because I'm such a massive transphobe that apparently I was making her feel unsafe in her own home, my crime? I told her to stop encouraging her friends down medical pathways. I dared to point out that thoughtful therapy should always be the best way forward.
We argued to the point of me having a mental breakdown.
How did it come to this? How did the daddy's girl I'd spent a lifetime trying to protect see me as a figure of hate? How did this mind virus see thoughtful therapy as trans conversion therapy?
I've moved to the north east, 240 miles away from the family home. Literally had to get away, break my own heart to save my sanity.
Seeing stories such as yours also breaks my heart, watching my daughter and her friends happy clap a friend into top surgery breaks my heart. How many more vulnerable people are going to sacrifice perfectly healthy working bodies to the cult?
I'll paste a copy of a recent social media post I added in the hope she still looks.
It's more focused on her as an ally.
I wonder what will happen if all this trans movement goes wrong?
One study which ran for 30 years between 1973 to 2003 found the suicide rate for people who transitioned was 19 times higher than the general public control group.
At that time Dutch studies showed regret from transition was 1.9%. this 1% regret rate is still pushed by the gender lobby today.
Things have changed though since then. Back in the early days of gender care they used thoughtful therapy where up to 90 percent of people with dysphoria could learn to live happily in their own bodies. Only the very most persistent insistent and consistent were approved for gender care.
Not now though, every person who says they are trans is believed and affirmed. Instead of 9 out of ten people learning to live happily in their own bodies 10 out of 10 can start gender care.
Every one can have blockers or cross sex hormones, even surgeries.
Regret is soaring, the tavistock clinic done a study which found 8% regret. It was thought to be an underestimate as they had lost contact with many patients. Another American study quoted over 25% regret.
Are we starting to see suicide rates higher than the 19 times shown in that Swedish study?
One detransioners forum went from a couple of hundred people to over 21,000 in a few short years.
What happens when you realise you've made a mistake yet you have done so much to your body it's irreversible?
What if you aren't trans but an ally? What if you affirm a friend and encourage them down a medical pathway which they later regret because you told them therapy was trans conversion therapy and should be avoided?
What if that friend can no longer deal with the misery or pain if surgery goes wrong? Are you going to stand at their funeral with a clear conscience? Are you going to be able to look their distraught parents in the face?
You only get one body, some people would love a healthy working body yet because of a social contagion vulnerable people are lining up to mutilate themselves while their friends all cheer them on.
This isn't a fad, it isn't a game it's the rest of someone's life.
While this was directed at the ones who cheer this mind virus on, just know that even as a man in his mid 50's who had previously only cried at the birth of his children, stories like yours break my heart. I'm not too proud to admit having shed lots of tears for the regret that follows you and so many others like a lead shadow. How I wish the so called medical professionals who encouraged you down this path would have to compensate you from their own pockets or face jail.
Stay strong and stay safe
I agree with everyone else who thanked you for sharing a day in your life with us. This is a valuable window into what so many young people are going through now or eventually will. Fewer than would if you and others were not telling the truth to those contemplating transitioning. I hope you’re fast asleep now and that tomorrow really will be a better day.
There is a major need for a specialist who can lead the treatments and support needed for anyone damaged by medical negligence. Your's is very specific in the areas targeted. Without this, the advice you say, that helps you pass urine, might not be given to others, may not even be the best advice. Without a champion for your care it will be a hotch potch of remedies and try this, rather than a developing research area. I hope someone out there realises there is a need for them to take this on.
Wow, Ritchie. Despite it being heart wrenching to read, I couldn’t stop because you are such a gifted writer! Thank you for sharing the true cost of this f*cking ideology. Sending strength!
I'm so very sorry. Your chronicle is terrific and eye-opening. I fervently hope that science will advance to the point where much of your (physical) pain can be reversed. Please keep writing.
No words. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
you have a gift. thank you for sharing it with us. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️