Tulip you are a really talented interviewer. Grace; what a strong story and love the joyous wedding pic!
Questions
Grace:
1. In US how is detrans surgery not considered “trans healthcare” after all if transmen are men, and a transman has dysphoria about their maleness, feels female and is distressed with their male body, then affirmation of being female and transition (back) to female is the correct pathway! Right?? . If TMAM and TWAW How do they get to argue that gender dysphoria and transition are a one way street? Isn’t that sex descriminatory?
2. I’m interested in your sexual orientation- there’s a lot of talk that TiW are largely butch lesbians, but from Benjamin’s podcast I learned of young women who imagined themselves as gay men, and that in part drove their identity. You spoke of being with your husband throughout- Did you identify as a gay man?
All of you outspoken, re-identified men and women are awesome, your words are more important than you can imagine. I hope doctors will start to listen. The "sexologist" psychologist who diagnosed my former husband in one appointment in 1993 (which she documented in a sworn affidavit, submitted during our divorce) demonstrates the arrogant, superior attitude the "specialized" practitioners had about their unsupported diagnostics, going way back. I believe that a high percentage who did the surgeries are unhappy, but sunk cost fallacy and pressure due to potential cancellation keeps them from speaking out, or even admitting it. I never saw my ex genuinely smile after. He's very much caught up in advocacy, as well as exerting his 'right' to call himself the mother of our children.
I hope Ritchie and Grace find connections to nature and the mind/body lifeline. I walk with nordic sticks and do floor work to keep my abdominal wall felt as a source of strength. This is influenced by Feldenkrais physical therapy, which I think should be the first course taken when dysphoria hits.
Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
Thank you so much, Ritchie and Grace! I am so inspired by your courage, kindness, and, well, grace! What you have offered to other detransitioners, to parents, to the world is so important and so needed. ❤️
Sep 7, 2022·edited Sep 7, 2022Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie
Much affection to you both. I hope and believe that this will be just one episode in your long lives, and that someday it will come to seem small and distant, despite the permanent consequences. You would be justified in running away from it as fast as possible, so I appreciate that you’re trying to provide this warning to others. It’s above and beyond any obligation, a kindness that I know comes at a personal cost. Though I can see that telling the truth has great value too.
Tulip you are a really talented interviewer. Grace; what a strong story and love the joyous wedding pic!
Questions
Grace:
1. In US how is detrans surgery not considered “trans healthcare” after all if transmen are men, and a transman has dysphoria about their maleness, feels female and is distressed with their male body, then affirmation of being female and transition (back) to female is the correct pathway! Right?? . If TMAM and TWAW How do they get to argue that gender dysphoria and transition are a one way street? Isn’t that sex descriminatory?
2. I’m interested in your sexual orientation- there’s a lot of talk that TiW are largely butch lesbians, but from Benjamin’s podcast I learned of young women who imagined themselves as gay men, and that in part drove their identity. You spoke of being with your husband throughout- Did you identify as a gay man?
All of you outspoken, re-identified men and women are awesome, your words are more important than you can imagine. I hope doctors will start to listen. The "sexologist" psychologist who diagnosed my former husband in one appointment in 1993 (which she documented in a sworn affidavit, submitted during our divorce) demonstrates the arrogant, superior attitude the "specialized" practitioners had about their unsupported diagnostics, going way back. I believe that a high percentage who did the surgeries are unhappy, but sunk cost fallacy and pressure due to potential cancellation keeps them from speaking out, or even admitting it. I never saw my ex genuinely smile after. He's very much caught up in advocacy, as well as exerting his 'right' to call himself the mother of our children.
I hope Ritchie and Grace find connections to nature and the mind/body lifeline. I walk with nordic sticks and do floor work to keep my abdominal wall felt as a source of strength. This is influenced by Feldenkrais physical therapy, which I think should be the first course taken when dysphoria hits.
Ute Heggen, author, In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow (iuniverse, 2022)
Thank you so much, Ritchie and Grace! I am so inspired by your courage, kindness, and, well, grace! What you have offered to other detransitioners, to parents, to the world is so important and so needed. ❤️
Much affection to you both. I hope and believe that this will be just one episode in your long lives, and that someday it will come to seem small and distant, despite the permanent consequences. You would be justified in running away from it as fast as possible, so I appreciate that you’re trying to provide this warning to others. It’s above and beyond any obligation, a kindness that I know comes at a personal cost. Though I can see that telling the truth has great value too.
thank you!
It’s great to see you two together, you have both done so much to make the world a better place!
Thank you, Ritchie and Grace . Very uplifting.
Great interview and happy to see the beautiful wedding pictures! I need to check out that 60 minutes interview