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This was excellent. Thank you.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

So well written and heartfelt Ritchie!

I have no doubt you will continue to be a source of great comfort and information for any family member who has been caught in the gender trap.

Look after yourself and you will continue to grow in strength and character.

Take care , from an old Mum and Grannie (my Grandaughter has desisted at age 15 without doing any physical harm to herself). Sending hugs

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Written from the heart and backed by experience. Many parents and their offspring must get great comfort from your words Ritchie. Well done.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you for thinking of us parents and having compassion and understanding 💛We feel very alone in all this. We can’t do right for doing wrong and everything we say is taken in the worst possible faith.

We know our children are the victims here, not us, and that what we’re going through is nothing compared to them. My own young adult daughter is so deep inside this ideology and has been gone 5 years now. I don’t know whether we will ever see her again. I live in hope and reading your words has really helped. Thank you.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you. You give me hope❤️

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Jul 25, 2023·edited Jul 26, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

A most invaluable post, for the parents and kids, caught up in this mental and physical meatgrinder and for the rest of us. I applaud your strength in supporting strangers, in the best way you could - sharing your thoughts and story.

I agree that the shine is tarnishing a bit, on this ideological Holodomor, but there are still many (celebs and politicos) out there, who will push this (like the jabs) until the day they die. For them to change course, there'd have to be something that offers more benefit and popularity, otherwise they risk losing too much (money, clout, influence and power).

This is why I am thankful to all of you, who have been in the belly of the beast and emerged, to tell the rest - the trials, destruction and battles you've endured and still are.

Very much in the vain of Joseph Campbell's "The hero with a thousand faces".

Well done and best regards, on your continuing journey and work!!

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Jul 25, 2023·edited Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you so much for putting your heart and soul on paper. I truly wish I could take away so much of the pain and heartache so many experience. I saw myself in some of your words

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Jul 26, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you for your hard earned insights! I am a teacher in the states and a mom of a 17-year old trans identified daughter with a recent autism diagnosis (not desisted ... yet). What resonated with me was the maturity you said you gained at just over 30. Christina Buttons said the same thing! I have told my child this. I would also add (for her when she is ready to hear it) that some of the wisest reflection in writing and interviewing has come from folks like you, Sinead, Helena, Chloe, etc. I am praying for you all - for your stories to be heard and felt and for you to win your lawsuit!

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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Jul 26, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you for sharing these thoughts. So many valuable insights. The thing I like best is the overall concept of WHEN they come home. More and more, my husband and I have started to think in these terms. Our FTM daughter this year started calling me almost daily -- not asking for anything, not with anything important to say, just to kind of shoot the breeze about what was happening in her day. Talk about being floored! So, we are witnessing her reaching out to us, and dropping the constant hostility that used to be there. There are no OTHER signs of desistance, but who knows? With time maybe. Meanwhile, we make sure she knows we love her.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Oh, Ritchie! I'm so sad about all you went through. Thanks so much for being so open about your thoughts and experiences. You truly are a lifeline for me as a mom who is hurting so very much over my 24-year-old son who says he's my daughter. Thank you! <<hugs>>

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you so much for your beautiful voice. It is calming in the storm that I am in.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

I take heart that you think we are starting down the other side! I repeat like a broken record, therapies involving natural anxiety reduction and mind/body reconnect must be included with quality talk therapy. Feldenkrais physical therapy, chiropractic accupressure, non-religious yoga, and mind/body movement in the Alexander work vein are a start. The reconnect for mind and body will not happen from just the talk, in my view. Best to you, Ritchie. This is all so important.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you, Ritchie. Thank you for being and thank you for writing.

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This is incredibly useful, thank you Ritchie. I so appreciate your many kindnesses to parents. It's such a mark of character when you do something for others that you don't have to do, but do because it is so kind and human. I wish you every good thing. You are a remarkable human being.

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Jul 25, 2023Liked by @TullipR / Ritchie

Thank you Ritchie, for thinking of us parents. You and your words give me hope. ❤️

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